Wedding RSVPs: how to ask and keep track

Updated September 30, 2026

Quick answer

To collect wedding RSVPs, give guests a deadline (two to three weeks before) and an easy way to reply. The simplest is for each guest to reply from their own digital invitation, saying how many are coming: you see answers in real time and know exactly who to remind.

What RSVP means

RSVP comes from the French “Répondez s’il vous plaît”, meaning “please reply”. It tells guests you need to know whether they will attend.

How to ask for RSVPs

  1. Set the deadline a few days before your venue needs the final count.
  2. Assign each guest their number of seats.
  3. Put the deadline and how to reply on the invitation.
  4. Check replies weekly and remind only those who have not answered.
  5. Close the count and build the seating plan.

How it works with Invitarei

Each guest gets a personal link with their name and seats. They tap to reply, say how many are coming and the answer appears instantly in your dashboard, next to your seating plan.

Frequently asked questions

When should the wedding RSVP deadline be?

Two to three weeks before the wedding, or a few days before your venue’s deadline.